She’s thinking about using Mother’s Day to tell her mom that she’s been secretly married since February…

Dear Bert Show,

I am looking for some opinions to help settle a debate between my husband and I before this weekend. In a
nutshell…I want to tell my mom we got married this weekend. He doesn’t.

A little over a year ago, Tyler and I got engaged. My parents love him, and they were thrilled. I always wanted to get married in my hometown, but since I don’t live there, my mom was going to take the lead on all the wedding plans. While I’d give her my thoughts and requests, I didn’t really mind her doing it since it’s not really my thing.

Well, when Covid hit, we all decided to hold off on the wedding planning since we didn’t know what the future would hold, and we didn’t want to plan for something that would just get canceled. A couple of months ago, my mother started all the planning again, but I didn’t realize how far she has gotten and how excited she is. The one problem with all of this is that Tyler and I are already married. We eloped back in February.

We had planned on surprising our family and telling them in person and the soonest that was going to be
would be Mother’s Day. Well, now my mom is excited to go over all the planning she has done so far. I want to just stop it all before she gets any further and continue with our plans to reveal we are married. My husband thinks I should continue to keep this all a secret and let her plan the big day. Now that he’s heard how excited she is about the planning, he thinks it would devastate her to know we already got married.

While I can see his point, I also think it would anger her if she planned and paid for a wedding that was now unnecessary. I really want to tell her, but he says not to. Thoughts?